cheating is bound to happen. You can’t pretend life is perfect and that nobody will fall off the horse occasionally

 

Cheating

The temptation to cheat is part of everyday living everyday in the real world. We just spent
several minutes disagreeing with each other about this subject and what we should suggest in
this article. We both think our points are more valid of course, so we’ll give you both of them
and try to get to the truth of the matter.

Pearl chats: Serene, cheating is bound to happen. You can’t pretend life is perfect
and that nobody will fall off the horse occasionally. I don’t think we should say, “never
cheat”

 Serene chats: So you’re calling me a nobody? I’m not going to fall off the “horse.” And
why are you calling healthy eating a “horse”? Some people like me cannot enjoy a cheat.
How does something feel like a treat if you know you are poisoning your body, adding to
the aging process, and having to work out harder tomorrow?

Pearl chats: They’re unique thought processes to you. I don’t have those thoughts
when cheating. I’ll have a bag of popcorn when my husband and I do movie dates about
once a month or so, (even with that fake butter stuff they pour all over it). I’ll eat a
small bag of potato chips when I’m on vacation, or a real sugar brownie or two every
now and then, and I am not going to spend the two days of Christmas and Thanksgiv-
ing denying myself anything, and I mean anything! Most people feel this way, and it
is so easy to start back on plan the next day. I have had no problems doing this. Life
should not be all about rules and restrictions.

Serene chats:
Pearl, why does a treat always have to be junk? Why do you have to say
you are denying yourself to not partake of junk foods? I splurge at Christmas as well,
but with more expensive and gourmet foods that I normally would not purchase. These
treats are not going to damage me. Christmas and Thanksgiving can be full days of
Crossovers which make me more than satisfied.

 

 

Pearl chats: Well, we agree to disagree. Serene, you’ve always had super human self-
control when it comes to what you eat. Most of us are not born with such ability.
Feeling weighed down with shame for cheating can create a worse situation for some
people. I know a few people who feel so awful about themselves for messing up now and
then that they start to self sabotage. Healthy progress is hindered from self punish-
ing choices. They figure, “I can’t get this right, I already messed up so I might as well
drive through and order a large Fry and a Frosty to dig a deeper grave.”
For those who want to eat some forbidden foods once in a while, I say it is fine if
you can handle it. Make sure this doesn’t become a way for you to slip back into your
old habits though. Serene has a point. Some cheats I wouldn’t do because they are so
unhealthy for the body. If at all possible, I urge you to stay away from fast food fries
or onion rings, large amounts of potato chips, or other trans fatty foods. But, if you
do find yourself eating birthday cake and loading up on all that other crazy stuff I just
mentioned, do not say, “Well, I might as well throw this whole program away now. I just
can’t stick to it.”
No, way! Our plan is forgiving and you must offer yourself that same forgiveness.
Shake yourself off and make sure your very next meal is right on plan. You don’t even
have to wait until the next day. Getting back on target is a meal away. Please, don’t
beat yourself up too much. If I find myself cheating, I make sure to have eggs alone
the next morning. I fry up two or three eggs in butter and this somehow tells my body
to get back in line, thank you very much. This is a sure way to help reduce the excess
sugars in my cells and get me back on track.

Serene chats:
If our readers aren’t going to beat themselves up, I will do it for them.
Why? Because sometimes love has to be tough. They may say they only cheat on birth-
days, but family birthdays can come several times a month. If they are part of a large
family, or even extended family, they could end up cutting loose all the time.
How can you enjoy the holiday season if you know you are getting heavier and
out of shapier! Okay, I just created a new word, but I am getting heated up on this
subject.

Pearl chats:
Trim Healthy Mama
On that you are right, Serene. I agree we shouldn’t take whole seasons
to cheat. Choose the one or two seasonal parties or occasions and use a sense of
commitment to plan the rest of the time. Many people get colds and flus around the
holiday seasons because they binge on sugars, and this lowers immune defenses.
Some may know how to cheat well and have no problems getting back on plan. For
others, cheating may be a ticket to disaster. Figure out who you are and know your
limitations. Be honest with yourself. It seems I can cheat and jump back on plan easily.
My husband can do this, too. He takes at least three full days over Christmas and
eats to his heart’s content all the things he normally wouldn’t eat. I think he goes
overboard and I’m always relieved when that time is up. I constantly have to zip my lips
and not nag, although somehow my lips open and nagging just pops out—oops!
There will always be temptations. You cannot live in a sheltered balloon. On a daily
basis there will be candy at the gas station . . . yeah, it even calls to me sometimes.
Instead, I tell myself it is not real food and say to myself, “I don’t eat that.” Self talk
works for me.
There will always be cupcakes at a friend’s birthday. There will be all kinds of ridicu-
lous options at the church pot luck. We can’t cocoon ourselves away from it all. But,
it’s not like you can’t make commitments and keep them! And the great thing is that
we have wonderful options of healthy “cheat like” food on our plan. That’s why you can
stick to it; you can have all the indulgences at home.
On the whole, this is a good mindset to keep: be faithful to the plan, but if you
cheat, forgive yourself and don’t dwell on the “Oh No’s” and a mindset of failure that
prevents you from jumping back on the horse—just wrote that for Serene’s sake.

 

Brown Bag Lunches – find fitting foods

 

As homseschooling mothers, we are not out of the home much at lunchtime. The following
brown bag ideas have stemmed from trying to find fitting foods to send with our husbands to
work. These next ideas can really revolutionize your husband’s life if he is struggling with weight
issues or be handy ideas for yourself it you are out of the home during the day sometimes.

Pearl chats:
Joseph’s pitas are invaluable to me for making lunches for my husband.
On the days he works outside the home, I often send him between half and a whole
pita stuffed with either egg salad, tuna salad, natural deli meats, mayo, lettuce and
cheese, or leftover chicken breasts as an S lunch.
If I send half a pita, I also usually add in five or six Deli Meat Roll Ups (Lunches,
Chapter 20). He loves peanut butter and celery so I include a couple of stalks with
natural sugar-free peanut butter. Some days, I change things around and fill the
celery with 1 ⁄ 3 less fat cream cheese instead. I like to include Cheese Crisps (Snacks,
Chapter 24) or a little baggy of spicy nuts and small pieces of cheese. He’s a very
happy guy when I send him with some glucomannan pudding in a jar ready to spoon out,
some vanilla-flavored ricotta cheese, or even a piece of our Special Agent Brownie Cake
(Desserts, Chapter 23).
For variety, I send him a couple of sandwiches made with Trim Healthy Pan Bread
(Muffins, Breads, and Pizza Crusts, Chapter 19) with leaner fillings and light mayo for
an E lunch. He really enjoys these. I make sure to include some sweetened skim ricotta
cheese as a fitting E dessert to help him fill up some more on those days. Sometimes,
I make him Oopsie Rolls (Muffins, Breads, and Pizza Crusts, Chapter 19). These gour-
met looking croissant type rolls match perfectly with roast beef, cheese, and lettuce.
They make a killer S style sandwich and he gets many comments from co-workers on
how good they look.
Other days I send a huge S salad loaded with meats, cheese, grape tomatoes,
onions, and a small container of water thinned Ken’s Ranch Dressing on the side. This
fills him up well. I’ll let you in on a secret, though. More often than the S salad I just described, I try to send him off to work with Fuel Pull salads. He doesn’t know this, so
don’t tell him! I do this because my husband eats lots of nuts almost every night as
an after dinner snack. He loves to snack on high calorie S foods and doesn’t naturally
change to lighter foods on his own (but what man thinks about doing such a thing,
right?)
Sending him a Fuel Pull salad once, or hopefully twice a week, really helps combat
those night time high calories he eats and orchestrates a nice caloric change. The
trick with a Fuel Pull salad is to make it extremely huge and then your guy does not
feel like he is missing out on the tummy filling factor.
I chop up at least one big heart of romaine lettuce with green peppers, onions, and
baby tomatoes. To that I add about 2-3 oz. of grilled chicken cut up into small cubes.


I dress the salad with 20 sprays of Wishbone Ranch Salad Spritzer. That’s a really
light caloric dressing but it has a good flavor. It wets the salad greens well. I then
sprinkle on sea salt, black pepper, and cayenne pepper which makes the salad taste
even more flavorful. Or, I use Walden Farms calorie free Thousand Island dressing,
which surprisingly, he actually likes! You could use Green Valley Ranch (another more
healthful calorie free dressing) if you are leery of dressings with artificial flavors and
chemical ingredients. I always add two to three good tablespoons of 1% cottage cheese
to the top of the salad. Sometimes he cannot even finish the whole meal and has to
save some for later. I give myself a pat on the back for job well done! On these Fuel Pull
brown bag lunch days, I also send him some glucomannan Choco Pudding (Desserts,
Chapter 23) in case he gets hungry in the afternoon, or his other favorite, glucoman-
nan pudding made with banana extract and defatted peanut flour.
Charlie looks forward to his packed lunches and they keep him away from burgers
and fries. His weight loss of nearly 40 pounds has been maintained for well over four
years now, and these packed lunches have been the key—integral, crucial, and abso-
lutely necessary!
I have to admit that I never feel like making Charlie’s lunch in the morning. I am
not a morning person. He has to leave early and I confess to being a bit grumpy when
I have to get up with the alarm and make his breakfast and lunch, but I keep it to
myself. Just the thought of the lunch choices he will make if he buys his own get me up
and rising with that dratted alarm. It’s a certainty that his choices will be pizza or a
burger with large fries—scary thoughts for me.
After rising in the morning and trudging sleepily into the kitchen, I find myself
thinking “I am going back to bed as soon as this is done, really, I am this time!” But,
25-30 minutes later he appears freshly showered at our breakfast bar as I have just
finished making both his breakfast and lunch. By this time, my mood has improved,
my kettle is whistling for my green tea, or my coffee is ready to pour, and I am ready
for the day.


The idea of going back to bed is no longer tempting. He sits in the kitchen
to eat his breakfast and we get a nice couple of minutes to chat before he says
goodbye. Serene chats: Not only does it help our budget by sending my husband food from home,
it also settles my worries about protecting his health. My husband enjoys stuffed
Joseph’s pitas, but he dislikes my pre-filling all the stuff inside. He likes moist goodies
like pickles and says it becomes soggy and gross by the time he eats it. To solve this
problem, I purchased two Tupperware containers that are divided into three spaces. I
fill each space with different fillings like natural turkey slices, cheese, fresh tomato,
Vidalia onion, lots of organic romaine lettuce, healthy pickles, jalapeno pickles, yogurt
based dressing, and mustard. This sounds like a lot but it takes only a minute or two
for him to put it together. I send him with a couple of low-carb pitas or Joseph’s low-
carb lavish bread and he fills them himself when he wants one.
I also send him a green apple and a Ziploc baggy with a handful of raw walnuts for
a snack later in the afternoon. Sometimes I send him Oopsie Roll sandwiches. Lately,
his favorite sandwiches are made with Trim Healthy Pan Bread, (Breads, Muffins, and
Pizza Crusts, Chapter 19). He calls them “Manwiches” because he thinks they appeal
to his male tastes more than other types of breads. He really loves it when I make
them with Southwestern style Egg Beaters.
The most important part of Sam’s lunch in the warmer seasons is a gallon of
either homemade Nunaturals stevia-sweetened mint tea or lemonade. He drinks the
entire gallon every day when working hard manual labor. He cares about his drinks
even more than his food. This was a real problem in our early marriage as I hadn’t yet
formed the habit of sending his lunch with him. He would drink regular sweetened tea
or sodas all day long. When I found out about this habit, it motivated me to take the
extra few minutes to make alternatives for him.
In the winter, when he needs to be warmed up, I send nice hot soups in a Coleman’s
thermos. This is warming and soothing as he often works outside in the cold.
When I take the extra effort to prepare lunch for him, I notice his belly goes flatter
and he looks more radiant in his complexion. When I go through less motivated sea-
sons, such as when I have morning sickness and I don’t fix his lunch, he gains weight
and looks more tired.
My husband leaves very early in the morning, and especially when I am pregnant, I
do not like getting up when it is still dark. To remedy this, I try to make his lunch the
night before (after dinner when my children are doing chores) and have it ready for him
to pull out of the fridge. 

The Dessert Menu For Healthy Food

 

 

You’ll be asked if you want to look at the Dessert Menu—that’s how restaurants make their
money. But, you just ate a perfectly slimming meal at a restaurant of all places—kudos to you!
Why ruin it? Sugar laden desserts will undo all your good choices in a second. Even more than
croutons on your salad, a sugary des-sert swiftly turns an S slimming meal into a tandem fueled fattening one. If you opted for berries and whipped cream that would be different, but it’s usually much too tempting to pass up the cheesecake or the chocolate vol-cano! We suggest rounding your meal out with a rich coffee. You could ask for whipped cream on top. That won’t be a problem for your server. Bring a stevia packet or two in your purse, or some liquid drops to sweeten up your coffee into a dessert-like finale. Now you can
relax, fully satisfied, and devote your-self to flirting with your husband over your coffee cup. Oh yeah!

You can always think to yourself when faced with the dessert temptation, “I have yummy
chocolates at home.” Or, you could make a special chocolate cheesecake that is plan approved
for the occasion, and you and your husband can share some when you’re back home. The chil-
dren will hopefully all be in bed, and you are not so full so you’ll really get to enjoy it. Good
foreplay.
Of course, if the occasion for eating out is a special anniversary, we are not going to judge
you for splitting a dessert with your husband. Just don’t make a habit of it.

What Would You Like To Drink?

Beverages at restaurants can be another trip up. Stick to good choices like Perrier sparkling
mineral water with lemon. A glass of dry red or white wine would be fine, or a very low-carb
beer if your husband likes that. Unsweetened tea (bring your own sweetener), hot tea, or coffee
are all fine. Okay, if you haven’t been able to completely kick the habit, a diet soda won’t kill
you. If you were able to baby step your way into choosing a suitable S meal from the menu, we
won’t be too mad that you just had to have a diet coke. Progress is what makes us happy. You
get an “A minus” grade. Not too shabby.

Family Restaurants

You may not always be fine-dining alone with your husband, or out with adult friends on spe-
cial occasions. Sometimes you’re out to eat with your children. Or, other times, you’re craving
Chinese or Indian food. Let’s look at four common restaurant favorites.
Mexican
Do not regularly go into a Mexican restaurant if you cannot say no to the corn chips they
constantly refill at your table. Not only will they destroy your waistline, but they drip with
trans fats that initiate degenerative diseases. You may be the type who will let your children
have a treat and eat the corn chips, but please pass on them yourself (unless you are going to
save your Mexican restaurant experience for a rare cheat meal then a few chips shouldn’t hurt
you too much). We find it is better to ask for a plate of cucumber slices and a side of guacamole
to be brought straight away. Dunk and dip. It is yummy and fun. You won’t feel left out this
way while your children are having fun with chips and salsa. Cheese dip and cucumber slices
are another option, but the cheese dip has moderate carbs since it is usually made with a little
milk, so you’ll be in S Helper territory.
The best item to order at a Mexican restaurant is Fajitas. Who needs refried beans, rice,
and white flour tortillas, when you can have seasoned grilled meat with caramelized onions,
peppers, and tomatoes? Tell the waiter you won’t need the tortillas, rice, or beans. You can ladle on the sour cream, salsa, cheese, guacamole, and pico de gallo. Who would miss the bland
starches? We certainly don’t. Another option is Chile Relleno, which is a stuffed pepper with
meat and cheese. Make sure it is not breaded. They are usually not made that way, but you
might want to check first.
Avoid the margaritas. It is an alcoholic drink that is high in carbs from sugar. Mexican res-
taurants also serve a lot of Sangria, which is very sweet wine. Avoid this at all costs. If you like
to have a glass of wine when dining out, ask them for their driest one.
For those who eat Crossovers occasionally, it would be fine to add a side of refried beans.


But, adding the white rice would not be appropriate.
Chinese
We think Chinese restaurants are the hardest places to find a slimming meal, yet it can be done.
Don’t put the white rice, or the fried rice (that is white but looks brown from soy sauce) on
your plate. Beware of the noodles, anything fried, breaded and crispy, and any sweet tasting
sauce. What are you left with? Load up on lots of good vegetables like broccoli, cauliflower,
green beans, and onions. Find which meat dishes are in non-sweet sauces. Beef and broccoli
dishes are usually your safest bet. The sauces used for such dishes may have a little corn starch,
but you’ll survive; at least they won’t be swimming in sugar. If you are ready to enjoy Crosso­
vers or S Helpers, some Chinese restaurants offer brown rice.
Italian
You may be thinking, why even go, it’s all pasta based. You have to get a little creative. Italian
restaurants usually have nice grilled meats and vegetables. They also usually offer delicious
steak on their menu. You can ask for a pizza to be made for you with a portabella mushroom
as a base if they do not already have this idea on the menu. Stuffed eggplants or zucchini are
often available. Don’t forget the beautiful salads.


If you don’t want to miss out on your pasta, we suggest this idea. Take a box of Dreamfields
pasta and ask your waiter to tell the chef that you are on a low gylcemic diet for your health
and should only eat this type (that’s not a lie). There are so few digestible carbs in this delicious
pasta, so you do not have to worry about E or S when choosing a sauce. Diabetics are known
to do this quite often, so don’t feel like a crazy person. The good thing about the USA is that
restaurants desire to please the customer so you will keep returning.
Indian or Thai
Coconut or cream-based sauces from this cuisine are perfect for S options. Chicken Marsala or
Butter Chicken are dishes that won’t mess with your weight too much if they’re eaten occasion-
ally. If you eat them too often (more than a couple times a week), these cream-based Indian dishes can bring on calorie abuse because of their richness, but enjoy them now and then. With
lots of veggies, you won’t even miss the rice that will mess with your weight.
If you are brave enough and want to bring an S Helper, or make your meal a healthy
Crossover, bring your own little Ziploc bag of correctly portioned brown rice or quinoa in
your purse. Quinoa is probably better, because you can have more of it and still stay within S
Helper guidelines. We are both known to do this very thing since we are crazy about Indian
food. Again, beware of sweet sauces in Thai restaurants. Red and green curries are usually a
safe bet.

Healthy Tips : Beware of Bars

We don’t mean the type that serve beer. We mean the packaged kind. Don’t be fooled into
thinking that grabbing an energy bar while on the go (even from the health food store) is a
slimming or healthy practice. Nearly all of these so-called natural bars are extremely high in
carbs and rely heavily on dried fruits like date pastes, honey, and glucose syrups. “Raw” bars
are notorious for this. The occasional one for a growing child would be fine, but your blood
sugar will be less likely to handle it. They often have a high nut content, which may slow down
the insulin response a little, but combined with dried fruit and the amount of honey used,
balanced sugar levels will be highly unlikely. Any fat the bar contains will climb on the insulin
truck and you have a double whammy packaged as an innocent health bar.
The other alternative is a protein bar. Most of these are soy based, and we know from ear-
lier discussion that soy is high in phytates and phytoestrogens. Corn syrup (even worse than
sugar) is often used to sweeten the bars. Sometimes these bars may be advertised as “no sugar”
or “low-carb.” In that case, sugar alcohols, like maltitol, are used. Maltitol is the least healthy
sugar alcohol and has its list of side effects, especially digestive distress. If you are really in a
pinch and not a purist psycho like Serene, these types of protein bars would be the best of the
worst. Atkins’ company makes such bars and they are readily available at most grocery stores.
We urge you to keep them for emergencies. However, it would still be a much better decision
when you are starving to eat a maltitol sweetened protein bar than a packet of potato chips, or
a high glycemic energy bar.
In Snacks, Chapter 24, you will find many recipes for energy and protein bars that are super
quick and easy to take with you. These are excellent on-the-go choices, or even for at-home
snacks.

 

Sit Down Restaurants

We think sit down restaurants are best for S meals. It’s harder to do an E meal because most
restaurants do not have whole grains or sweet potatoes on the menu. Your starch would end up
being white potato, white rice, or white noodles. Those won’t work.
Here’s how to order a healthy S meal while dining at a nice restaurant:
1. Try to avoid arriving too hungry. Eating a light snack at home a little while before
leaving for the restaurant is a good idea—maybe an ounce of cheese and a few nuts, or
quarter of a cup of glucomannan pudding (Deserts, Chapter 23). This way, you will be
more in control of yourself when faced with so many options and won’t be as tempted
to eat any of those FATTENING white dinner rolls that suddenly appear on your
table.
2. Here comes the first test. Say no to the bread or rolls they offer you. If you are vulner-
able to those temptations, ask for them to be removed from the table so you can focus
on ordering healthy items.
3. Choose your protein. Most restaurants have salmon (our favorite choice), other fish
choices, chicken, or fine cuts of steak. Make sure your protein source does not come
with sugar sweetened sauces or glazes. Butter, lemon, or cream based sauces are usually
fine.
4. Check if your protein source automatically comes with a rice pilaf, potatoes, or a side
of pasta. If so, ask for a double serving of grilled or sautéed veggies instead of the
starchy carb. Sautéed mushrooms are a perfect choice. Your server will always be most
happy to oblige you.
5. Your meal will usually come with a house salad. Remember to choose a dressing that
is not sweet. Oil/vinegar, Ranch, or Caesar are usually the safest options. Don’t eat the
croutons

Pearl chats:
It may seem a little obsessive to worry about such little items as crou-
tons, but they can turn a wonderful S weight loss meal into a fat-promoting meal due
to their carb content from the white flour. If you are in a restaurant where the salad
is a buffet, you can put a small sprinkle of sunflower seeds on your salad or ask the
waiter for bacon bits to replace that crunch.

Serene chats: I never order a salad exactly as described on the menu. I ask if I can
create my own side salad. Or, if I want it to be a feature part of my meal, I ask them
to make it nice and large and skip one of my sides that comes with the meal. They are
always delighted to help and have never charged me extra.
At Carrabba’s Italian Grill, my favorite restaurant in Franklin, Tennessee, I ask for
the field greens and a generous medallion of goat’s cheese, plenty of kalamata olives,
pine nuts, and sun-dried tomatoes, but to leave out the croutons. I ask for the virgin
olive oil and balsamic vinegar on the side. This is my favorite salad in the world.
You can also order a very healthy meal at O’Charleys by ordering fresh wild caught
salmon or steak with non-starchy sides of asparagus and broccoli.

 

Hate to Cook? This Is the Way

If you don’t love it yet, it is time to learn the joy and art of cooking. Anyone who chooses
health and vitality must make a conscious decision to prepare meals for home, or take on the
go. Studies show that people who are willing to cook at home have the most success at long
term weight loss.
It doesn’t matter if this is something you have not done in the past. You may be more like
Drive Thru Sue and want to take as many cooking shortcuts as you can. That’s fine, but you’ll
have to get some basics happening for long term health management. God made us to be crea-
tive and adaptive people. Saying, “I don’t cook,” is a mindset you can change. Our recipes are
easy enough for even clueless cooks.
Cooking doesn’t have to take a long time. All the recipes in this book are designed for quick
prep. We have busy lives with large families and don’t want to be slaves to the kitchen. Crock-
pots can really make a difference. You can do a little ten minute prep in the morning, rush
about all day, and know that your meal will be piping hot and ready to serve at supper time,
with a quick salad on the side and some whole grain bread and butter as another quick side for
your children’s higher glucose needs. S meals are perfect for crockpots. Meat simmering in a
creamy sauce all day, how can you beat that?
Learning to love, (or at least like), simple cooking at home also helps your budget and
allows you to purchase more organic items. Try the easy recipes in our breakfast, lunch, even-
ing meal, snacks and desserts sections. None of them are hard or laborious. You can get many
more ideas from the forum section of www.lowcarbfriends.com. Click on the Recipe Help and
Suggestion box for hundreds of ideas for low glycemic recipes and meals. You can ask questions
and have a bunch of knowledgeable folk help you out.

 

Eating Out

We know there will be times when you won’t be eating at home. Date nights, celebrations—
sometimes plain laziness. This is life. Our plan is easy to stick to while dining out at restaurants.
Even fast food can be managed correctly.
Hardees has a low-carb burger, great for an S meal. Their meat is not the usual nasty, low
end stuff. They use pure Angus beef. Actually, you can ask for any of their burgers to be “low-
carbed.” They wrap the burger and the fillings in a casing of lettuce that you can hold in your
hand and bite into—yum! You can always order a side salad too. Skip sweet dressings and go
with Ranch or Caesar. In-N-Out Burger chains do a similar thing with their burger, along with
a couple of other fast food chains.
Note: you won’t be able to drive and eat the low-carb burger at the same time. You’ll need
two hands as it’s a little messy.

If everyone is screaming for McDonalds while you are traveling on a family vacation, you
can still achieve weight loss or maintenance, even though it may not be the healthiest meal
you’ve ever eaten. Order a salad and a burger or two. Feed the ducks with the white buns, but
never yourself! The meat burger with all the fixin’s still tastes great without the bun. It’s an easy
S meal. You can utilize the dollar menu that way. Actually, this can also be a good save when
you’re out running errands and you have not a clue what to do about lunch to stay on plan.
Buy a couple of dollar burgers. Take the buns off, but leave the yummy fixin’s—you’ll taste the
flavors better without the buns. The meat will fill you up well, even if you feel a little strange
doing the bun removal trick.

If you are on a family day out and know ahead of time that you will likely be stopping at
a fast food burger joint, we suggest taking a couple of Oopsie Rolls (Muffins, Breads, and Pizza
Crusts, Chapter 19), or pieces of flax bread and swap these out for the harmful white buns. The
buns are the worst offenders, not the burgers themselves. Our S bun options will fill you up
much more so you won’t even need to consider the fries.
Traveling days can be saved by having a full S meal at Cracker Barrel with their menu cards
that indicate all their low-carb food options. Even Kentucky Fried Chicken does not have to
be your undoing. You can order the grilled chicken, rather than breaded or fried, and a double
side of green beans. Avoid the coleslaw as it has too much sugar. At the time of this writing
(things change quickly), they also have a double chicken breast sandwich without buns that
could work fine.
A six inch whole wheat Subway sandwich can be used as an E meal. Yes, the bread is not
sprouted or sourdough, but it’s not like you will be eating it every day. Choose a lean meat, lots
of veggies, part skim mozzarella, a light mayo, and lots of mustard and vinegar. A foot long sub
is too many carbs, especially when the bread is suspect, so avoid ordering that. Subway also has fresh fruit packets that could be a good E side option. This should tide you over until you can
get to your destination and eat a little more correctly.

*

Pearl chats: Or, if you are a purist like Serene, you pack your little cooler with all your
crazy goodies. She’s not likely to even walk into a fast food restaurant, but some of us
will not be able to avoid it.

Harmonious Meal Times

By harmonious, we don’t mean your three year old won’t spill his water cup twice and the baby
won’t choose to have her fussy, screaming hour coincide with your sit down meal. It means
that both the metabolic needs of adults and children can be met without having to completely
alienate one from the other.
Pre-packaged meal diets divide dieting parents from eating with their children and they
don’t promote the important family meal table. The adverts for these types of diets may look
compelling on TV when the stars announce how much weight they’ve lost. But, it’s one thing
to be in Hollywood, having your personal assistant bring your pre-packaged meal to your
movie trailer. It’s another thing to gather the whole family around the meal table for nourishing
food and bonding family time, while your only option is to pull back the plastic lining of your
tiny micro-waved box and pretend it’s satisfying and everything is okey dokey. Who wants to
go to the effort of creating important family time around the meal table if good food is not at
the center? It doesn’t give your children much to look forward to when they are adults.
An enjoyable meal releases the hormone oxytocin, which is your natural stress buster, and
which also fights all manner of diseases in the body. Later, you’ll learn how lots of sex with your
husband can increase your oxytocin levels dramatically. Eating good food releases this same
hormone to a significant, but somewhat lesser extent. Mothers need lots of oxytocin to help
fight the stress and chaos that sometimes threatens to overwhelm us in our daily family life.

Opening a tiny diet boxed meal, devoid of fat and calories, is not going to get that hormone
flowing! Good food, and enough of it to satisfy, along with the assurance that your children are
also eating that good food, is a formula for a nice release of oxytocin.
An S and E lifestyle can easily work for the whole family and meet all the different needs.
The evening meal is the perfect time to put this into practice. Let’s say you’ve planned a roasted
chicken (or two or three) for dinner (Whole Baked Chickens, Evening Meals, Chapter 21).
Perhaps you’re not a scratch cook, you’re more the Drive Thru Sue type and you picked up a
couple of rotisserie chickens from the store on your way home from running errands. Don’t be
down on yourself; that’ll work too, (so long as the chicken is not breaded and fried). In fact, if
budget allows, you could have driven through Kentucky Fried Chicken and purchased pieces of their grilled chicken which would have saved you stress and time. It only matters that you
ended up with some carb free animal protein around which you plan the rest of your meal.
It’s simple, really. This meal will be S because you plan on leaving the yummy skin on the
chicken and eating both the dark and white meat. You’ll have your chicken with a big salad,
sprinkled with some cheese, bacon bits, and creamy ranch. Or, you could have lots of grilled,
steamed, or baked veggies, tossed with butter, and maybe a smaller side salad if you like. Hope-
fully, you’ll make sure your children have some salad and a serving of veggies, too. However,
they’ll need to fill up more with healthy, whole grain carbs, or creamy mashed potatoes in
proportion to their metabolic needs. Most children without weight issues need to eat at least
Crossover portions of healthy carbs. Rapidly growing teenage boys may eat carbs in far greater
than Crossover portions. But, remember, if any of your children are struggling with weight,
try to steer them to higher protein and vegetable intake rather than the carbs, but don’t take
the carbs away completely.

Pearl chats: At dinner time, all my family enjoys the same protein source, whether
it be chicken, beef, quiche, or beans. My husband and I eat more of the non-starchy
vegetables than the children. I make sure they get some, but I usually butter slices
of healthy whole grain bread and place these on the table so they have enough whole
grains for their metabolic needs. Or, I serve potatoes, brown rice, or whole wheat pasta.
The bread and other carbs do not interest me as the rest of the meal is so good and I
am completely satisfied with vegetables, fat, and protein in an S meal. Now and then, I
use the grains as S Helpers to supplement my meals. I do find though, with the excep-
tion of quinoa, that my sensitive digestive system has an easier time if I leave the
grains completely out of an S meal at night time.
All of my children that are still growing burn whole grain carbs efficiently and they
are all wiry and strong. My oldest daughter’s growth has stopped now that she is 17
years and she finds it more important to lay off high intake of grains, or she gains
weight.

When it comes time to prepare dinner, I always ask myself a couple of questions
to get started. First, what will be my protein source? Maybe I’ve got some ground
beef handy. Good. I’ll make a meatloaf. Now I’m in S territory so I ask myself what
non-starchy vegetable I’m going to use as the main side. I look in the freezer and see
two bags of frozen cauliflower. Good, I’ll roast them in the oven with coconut oil and
delicious seasonings while the meatloaf is cooking. Then I ask what carb can I have for
the children? I spy a box or two of whole wheat noodles in the cupboard. Great, I’ll cook
them up and toss with butter and parmesan cheese. The children will be very happy to
have a serving of those noodles on their plates. But, because the cauliflower will taste
so good, it won’t be too troubling to get them to eat that, too.

Lunches are when I often like to have a piece of salmon. I try to do salmon at least
two to three times each week, although I slip up sometimes when things are crazy
around here. For lunch, my children often like to eat whole grain noodles or grilled
cheese on whole wheat. Hey, I get to eat grilled cheese sandwiches, too, if I feel like
it, thanks to the plain version of Muffin in a Mug (Muffins, Breads, and Pizza Crusts,
Chapter 19).

After reading our chapter on Foundation Foods, Chapter 17, you may be persuaded
to also eat more salmon. It is very quick to make for lunch. Sautéing salmon, along
with some finely cut vegetables for S, or broiling or poaching the salmon and including
three quarters of a cup of brown rice or quinoa for E, is speedy and easy. You don’t
have to think of it as having to make a “another whole meal, poor me!” Right now, as
we’re writing this book, we have all our children together, plus an extra cousin or two
around. That makes about 15 children. We’re on a deadline, but lunchtime will be a snap.
The children will be happy if we heat up brown rice from the night before in coconut
oil and seasonings, offer them each a boiled egg from the fridge, and pass out apples
for dessert. At the same time, we will sauté our salmon and side it with an awesome
salad with avocado and toasted nuts, thrown together in a jiffy. Not too hard.
We’ll be back to you in no time, but right now we’re going to enjoy this fabulous
lunch. Serene and I love eating together and telling each other how we enjoy our good
food. It’s loud in here right now, though! O
Serene chats: There is usually one part of the meal that overlaps for everyone. Our
family enjoys a lot of yummy soups, like Coconut Thai or Chicken Curry, (Evening Meals,
Chapter 21). I usually serve a big pot of steaming brown rice on the table. My husband
and I either forgo the rice, or add 1-2 heaping tablespoons to our soup or stew as an
S Helper. We round our meal with a heartier portion of the scrumptious salad.
At other times we may have a favorite family casserole or meatloaf that is glyce-
mic friendly and which everyone can enjoy. Again, the big pot of steaming brown rice
is on the table for the children, but my husband and I round off our meal with yummy
veggies instead.


It’s very simple at our house. There is almost always raw whole milk and brown rice
on the table for the children and maybe a little “mummy and daddy” dish that is just
for us. The main portion of the meal is enjoyed by all, but we compliment our meals with
the different foods that support our metabolic differences.
Of course, there are times when the family requests something that is not on
the “plan” or, I have made something in bulk which is easy to feed the crowd of them,
like a big lasagna with whole wheat noodles, which would not suit a slimming protocol.
Instead, I sauté a little salmon in five minutes, throw a delicate salad on the side, and I am set to go as well. If what the children are eating does not work for you and you are
not at Crossover stage what is a few minutes to protect your waistline?
Keep it foremost in your mind that “kid food” will make you fat. Like Pearl, lunch
times are more often the time when I’ll choose to eat something very different from my
children. It is always a quick meal time for both the children and me. I may make tuna
sandwiches for my children while I have a piece of salmon on a bed of lettuce. Salmon
and salad is about the most slimming lunch you could ever hope to find.

Better way for kids food and Your Different Needs

For the sake of convenience, it is easy to fall into the trap of thinking you can eat whatever your
child eats, but it’s devastating to a trim figure. While you can learn to merge your own and your
children’s needs skillfully, we want to show you an example of what not to do. You may have
recognized yourself in one of the four women we introduced to you at the beginning of this
book. You may know this next woman, too.
Scene opens . . . the action looks familiar. You’ve seen this picture before . . . maybe you
were once the star of such a scene. It’s a beautiful summer’s day and the children are playing
happily at a park. Mom sits under the shade watching them.
Time for lunch! Back run the children to mama. They’re hungry. She takes out baggies of
peanut butter and jelly sandwiches on wheat bread and gives one to each child, keeping one for
herself. She had taken the time earlier that morning to wash grapes and put those in individual
baggies, too. Each child gets a bag of red grapes and so does mom. Next come the cheese puffs,
individual baggies of cheese puffs for the children and one for mom, too. Let’s not forget the
juice boxes. This sweet mama is prepared. She gives one juice box to each child and drinks one
herself—it’s a hot day after all. Little does she realize that this typical scenario will punish her
waistline, and of mothers all over the world.
The packed lunch looks pretty harmless on the surface. Aside from the cheese puffs, the
bulk of it is not considered junk food. Yet, it is all sugar in the bloodstream. Mom is more
insulin-resistant than her children. The peanut butter and jelly on wheat causes high glucose
in her blood stream, and the grapes add to it. The cheese puffs take it over the limit, and the
juice is the final nail in the coffin. Carbs, carbs, all of it, with only a smattering of peanut butter
to give any protein. An innocent looking child’s meal caused mother’s poor pancreas to surge
more insulin, which will put fat on her belly and butt! Double drat! The children run back
to play and burn up most of the carbs. Mom keeps on chatting to her MOPS group friends,
burning nothing except her shoulders.

Your Different Needs

Human beings require different fuel sources at different times of their lives. You don’t suck on
a bottle of milk all day as babies do. Babies need those liquid carbs to grow fast and develop all that yummy baby fat that we love to squeeze. Neither should you go around eating exactly
what your six year old eats. He’s growing; you are not. He’s naturally more active than you are.
Remember the picture we described of the baby birds with their mouths open and ready to
accept food? Your children have cells like that, ready to accept insulin. You do not. If you are
going to eat “kid food,” you are very likely going to say goodbye to a slim figure.
While they’re still growing, your children need more whole grain carbs than you do. They
can handle white potatoes. But, since insulin resistance is now becoming an epidemic, even
among children, creating a home environment where carbs do not rule the roost will help those
children who have already developed weight problems. Growing children with weight issues
should have S Helper servings of starches or even Crossovers, but never carb binges. Watch
what happens when those excess starches are replaced with more proteins, non-starchy veggies
and healthy fats—those children naturally lean out.

 

 

Take Two, Action!

Let’s revisit the scene at the park starring our “Kid Food Mom.” What could she have done
differently? It’s not complicated to turn this scene around. Mama could have still made a sand-
wich for herself using one of our S breads, such as Bread in a Mug (Muffins, Breads, and Pizza
Crusts, Chapter 19). Or, if she had purchased a low-carb bread item out of convenience, like
Joseph’s pitas, she could easily have made an S sandwich from one of those, too. Any of those
bread options could be enjoyed with any combinations of mayo, deli meats, or leftover chicken
or beef, cheeses, and lettuce.
New scene continues. Mom hands out the peanut butter and jelly sandwiches to the chil-
dren, but eats her own more low glycemic sandwich with a smile, knowing it is doing the right
thing for her body. Now she has a little protein and has not triggered the insulin spike. Hooray!
To round off her picnic lunch, she could have brought along a little baggie of a handful
or two of nuts and cheese for herself, instead of the packaged cheese puffs. If berries were in
season, she could have brought some fresh strawberries to eat in place of grapes, which are
one of the highest sugar-laden fruits. In fact, even her children would be better off eating nuts
and cheese. A container of cheap, dry roasted peanuts or party peanuts would have fed them
all and not have been any more expensive than the cheese puffs. Mom could have made some
delicious stevia-sweetened lemonade for herself and the children. Or, if her budget allowed,
bought some stevia-sweetened natural fruit flavored drink from the store and made up a big
jug of that. Everyone’s blood glucose would have been at healthier levels without drinking the
fruit juice.

“Kid Food Mom” could have even opted to take an E lunch if that was the order of the
day. She could have packed a sandwich using either our Trim Healthy Pan bread, some sprouted
bread like Trader Joe’s or Ezekiel, or homemade sourdough bread. She would have wisely used more lean fillings like lean turkey, lettuce and low-fat mayo with mustard or horseradish sauce.
She could have rounded off her lunch with a little container of low-fat cottage cheese and an
apple or cantaloupe slice. None of these options would have taken her any longer to prepare
than her original sugar-loading lunch. And, if she had taken a walk around the park rather
than just sitting, this mother, formerly known as “Kid Food Mom,” would be making huge
changes to her metabolic self! We would have to find a new name for her. How about “Smart
Food Mom”?

Downfall of Popular Diets

 

 

Not only do many popular diets have you throwing up the same ball over and over again, we
don’t like that they pull out complete macronutrients. Diets that center on an E meal premise
alone, like South Beach Diet or Weight Watchers, cannot offer the same superfood approach
as we propose. Nevertheless, we respect the work of Dr. Arthur Agatston, the founder of the
South Beach Diet. His books have brought paramount dietary information to the general

public.
But, healthy fats are one of the body’s number one superfoods. Diets that do not contain
certain fats that are essential for optimal health and longevity are not complete. Neither are
they nurturing. If you lived on our E meals alone, your hair and skin would not reach the same
luster, your hormones would decline earlier, and delaying the aging process would be harder
to achieve.

 

The Mediterranean Diet is another similar approach. While these diets use some olive oil
and small amounts of fish oils, they never bathe the body in the superpower of lubricating,
rejuvenating fats. They are fearful of Bible-based fats like butter and some fatty meats. They
dab a little oil here and there, but never really grease the wheel. They entirely exclude healthy
saturated fats which are now realized to be fantastic foods for the body. Any diet that does not
allow you to get your fill of healthy fats like butter will end up making you crave forbidden
food. We were designed to want fat because we need it. That makes sense.

Fat Keeps You on Track

It is more difficult to stay on these lean diets indefinitely, because diets without enough fat are
simply not as satisfying. Lean protein is not enough to fully curb hunger for very long. Fat is
the key for satiation. “Lean only” diets do not feed and nourish the endocrine, neurological,
and nervous systems of the body. Our hormones are made from cholesterol. Our nerves and
brains are protected by fat and we should not deny the body of its basic needs. Dr. Mariano,a renowned anti-aging MD and psychiatrist, says that interfering with cholesterol production
can impair brain function. On his website, he talks of how lack of cholesterol causes “memory
problems, mood problems, and even frank confusion.”
He goes on to say, “Cholesterol is the signal from astrocytes that tell neurons where to
make new connections (synapses). Cholesterol is a hormone/neurotransmitter in the central
nervous system. It is necessary to form memory. Cholesterol makes up half of the dry weight
of the brain.”
Also, it’s harder to treat yourself without fat. You can try to convince yourself it tastes like
the real deal, but it can’t compare to the genuine article.

 

Celebrate Food

Each food group is a gift to us to enjoy for life. S and E meals provide all the nutrients needed
for a long term sustainable way of eating. They also offer the pleasure of variety. This is crucial
for success as it easy to get sick of the same foods over and over again. Including all macro-
nutrients, all fuels, and a wide variety of caloric meals is the way to celebrate God’s abundant
gift of food to us. With this celebratory approach, we also keep in mind that we don’t have to
include everything in the same meal.

Tossing Balls – Picture yourself throwing one ball up and down

Picture yourself throwing one ball up and down. It’s quite easy, and once you’ve learned how
to catch that one ball well, you don’t have to burn much energy to do it. You can mindlessly
throw up then catch. It becomes so easy that it’s natural to become lazy with the simple process.
That’s essentially what happens when you stay on a diet that utilizes only one fuel type or
one setting of calories. Some diets like Atkins and the paleo approach throw a constant S ball
at you. Others like the South Beach Diet or Mediterranean Diet use the E ball. These E type
diets wisely warn you against spiking your blood sugar and encourage a focus on lean proteins
and whole grains, but it’s still the same ball over and over. Some extreme diets like HCG and
Biggest Loser even want you to throw the Fuel Pull ball up and down, again and again, for
long periods of time. Dangerous!
All these different diets that hit upon a certain metabolic principle have merits. They
wouldn’t become famous and offer results if they didn’t work and we can learn a lot from most
of them.

But, they keep you doing a similar thing continually. One ball up and down. Your
body can’t help but get lazy with the process. However, with two or more balls (alternating S
and E balls), your body has to get more active to keep catching. Fuel Pulls are the lowest of all
calorie meals. Including some of these now and then throws a third ball at your body to juggle.
Your body has to be constantly on its toes to manage the change ups. You’ll be burning all sorts
of energy trying to figure out what ball is coming at you next. The magic of alternating these
meal types is how your metabolism becomes a furnace.
If you’re in tune with your body, these changes can occur naturally. After a few high calorie
meals, it feels natural for your body to crave lighter fare. After lots of fat, it’s time for leaner
foods. After several meals of glucose, it’s time to give that metabolic pathway a break. After
feasting, you can listen to your body when it whispers, “Give me refreshing light food for a
meal or two.”


It’s the same natural inclination as when you crave savory or salty foods after too much
sweet. After lots of work, you feel like resting; after lots of rest, you feel like working. In the
exercise world, rest periods are as important as the days of light workouts and then heavier
workouts. It’s the cycle of life.
Do not make each day a constant diet.
While it’s good to learn about this premise, and some people can naturally do it, our plan
makes sure these changes will happen, even if you don’t easily hear the inner whisper of your
body. The fantastic thing about not getting stuck using only one dietary principle is that your
food options expand extraordinarily. You have a smorgasbord of healthy options open to you
at every meal. You can choose to eat grains and lean proteins, or you can choose lots of fat and
dine on red meat and greens. You can choose to pull your calories back and eat lightly with a
Fuel Pull, comforted with the fact that you get to eat more heartily any time you choose. We
find it’s almost a delight to incorporate some very low-calorie meals because we are not being
forced to do it. When your body is nourished so often with lots of fat in S meals and healthy
grains in E meals, pulling them out sometimes feels like a natural pause—a healthy break. A
Fuel Pull actually feels like a welcome change.

Have Patience and Time to Intensify Eating Satisfied and Energized Food

If you’re not drastically overweight, but you still have a bit to lose, we reiterate again, please
don’t expect miraculous, swift drops in dress sizes eating the S and E way. In the first month
or so, you may notice your clothes are looser, but you don’t see any changes on the scale. We
have helped several people who did not see actual weight loss in pounds well into month two.
Other mamas start our plan after flip-flopping from other diets. Some of them had lost 30
pounds or so on eating programs that were both unhealthy and impossible to live on. Substan-
tial drops of weight like these are almost always followed by a plateau. It’s the body’s way of
surviving and holding on to its fat stores for dear life.
If you’re starting S and E in a similar state, you may have to wait patiently for your body
to realize you are not going to deprive it of nutrition. Gradually, it will let go of its vice grip
on your adipose tissue. The scale will move eventually. If you find your clothes fit better, even
without a loss on the scale, this indicates that all the healthy protein is strengthening muscles and making a healthier body, fat to muscle ratio. This is a great sign. Keep at it. Your body will
let go of fat at its own pace.
Be aware that whenever you are losing weight, it never happens at a consistent pace. There
is usually a very frustrating rhythm that goes more like—little drop, big drop, no drop, no
drop, no drop, medium drop, little drop, big drop, no drop, and so forth. Your body will natu-
rally pause after each loss of about 20 pounds Let it regroup. Try not to get mad or sad and
want too much too soon. That mindset leads to defeatism where you may be tempted to go
back to your old ways rather than being patient and staying the course.
Keep the overall, long term goal in mind. You are establishing healthy eating patterns now
for your whole family. You are learning to include all food groups and understand the science
behind how each of them impacts your body.

 

Time to Intensify

If you have not seen sensible weight shedding by the three month mark, that would be your
green light to read Chapter 28 and get started on the One Week Fuel Cycle. Do the suggested
cycles, then start incorporating more Fuel Pulls into your own freestyling approach to S and
E. It will happen, Mama.

The Magic of Change

“Change ups” are what keep a metabolism fired up. Switching fuel sources between S and E
and then sometimes leaving them almost completely out with Fuel Pulls keeps your metabo-
lism hot and revved. Constantly consuming the same fuel over and over is a slim figure killer.
In short, you should burn glucose at some meals (E), fat at other meals (S), purely your own
body fat at certain snacks and meals (Fuel Pull), and don’t forget tandem fuel meals (Crosso­
ver) as you get closer to goal in your journey. This way, no adaptation takes place. Even if you
don’t have a weight issue, a revved metabolism is important for more than weight issues. A
highly thermogenic body is healthier and more youthful.

Never Adapt! The Answer to Calorie Confusion

We disagree with the folk who say weight loss is all about calories. Energy in, energy out—
that’s been debunked. Constant calorie monitoring makes for a miserable life. But, as always,
there’s the other side of the argument which says calories don’t matter at all. This side believes
weight problems are purely about hormones, namely, insulin and leptin. Diets like Atkins and
paleo hold more to this theory.

 

We agree that hormones matter and make sure to incorporate metabolic hormonal princi-
ples into the core of our plan. We do this by preventing the over stimulation of insulin through
carb heavy meals. But, this is not the full picture either. Calories do matter in the end. It’s no
good to bury our heads in the sand and pretend they don’t exist. Nevertheless, people take the
wrong approach when they set a low daily number and try to shoot for it. While you shouldn’t
have to meticulously count calories, it is very important to change them up so your body does
not become too accustomed to a continual amount. Let this be your mantra: “Never Adapt!”
The beauty of our S and E plan is that not only do we have fuel change ups occurring
between glucose and fats, but we naturally have calorie change ups going at the same time. E
meals are usually lower in calories than S meals, due to their more lean protein content and
medium amounts of starches. But, that doesn’t mean they’re better. If you constantly stay on
a lowish calorie diet like many of our E meals offer, your metabolism will eventually adjust.
That’s no good, because that means you’ll have to end up eating less and less food or you’ll gain
weight again.
And, it’s certainly not better, worse actually, to stay on extreme weight loss meals like our
Fuel Pulls. Too long a time eating extreme low-calorie meals like those and you’ll have to eat
like a bird for the rest of your life, or once again you’ll gain weight.
Staying on S meals only, which are naturally higher in calories due to fats, is another
metabolism dead end. Continual S meals for weeks, months, and years on end can be calorie
abuse! There is only so much high calorie food the body can take before it says, “Yeah, this is
good food, all this cream, peanut butter, red meat, and butter, but I don’t care how low-carb it
is, you’re stuffing it down my throat every meal so I’ve decided not to burn it up in retaliation

. . . so there!” The fact that fats are higher in calories is not a bad thing. Don’t get us wrong, we
love fats and creamy foods and want you to enjoy plenty of them. But, always remember with
calories at any constant, high or low, your very smart body will catch on.
Constantly counting calories to keep them low, or the opposite approach of calorie abuse
by eating constant fat-laden meals are polar extremes. There’s no balance in either place. We
wisely and happily meet in the middle by keeping to our mantra of “never adapt.”
These two opposing calorie camps can be likened to many extreme arguments, but after
some debate between ourselves, we agreed on using the example of two pregnant women. The
first opts to have a c-section for no other reason than because she only trusts in conventional
medical intervention rather than the natural flow and rhythm of her own body. The second
believes only in unassisted home birth, even in the face of a situation where the baby is failing
and she and her husband have no training on what to do. They’re both extreme camps and nei-
ther are sound mindsets. In reality, there are times where medical interventions like c-sections
are necessary and there are also situations where home births can be safe beautiful experiences.
Both sides of these arguments have valid points; both have some nonsense. The same goes for
extremes in calorie beliefs. We don’t have to pitch our tents on either side of the divide. Yes, calories count, but if we’re naturally changing up our fuels, we don’t need to be bothered with
constantly counting them.