By harmonious, we don’t mean your three year old won’t spill his water cup twice and the baby
won’t choose to have her fussy, screaming hour coincide with your sit down meal. It means
that both the metabolic needs of adults and children can be met without having to completely
alienate one from the other.
Pre-packaged meal diets divide dieting parents from eating with their children and they
don’t promote the important family meal table. The adverts for these types of diets may look
compelling on TV when the stars announce how much weight they’ve lost. But, it’s one thing
to be in Hollywood, having your personal assistant bring your pre-packaged meal to your
movie trailer. It’s another thing to gather the whole family around the meal table for nourishing
food and bonding family time, while your only option is to pull back the plastic lining of your
tiny micro-waved box and pretend it’s satisfying and everything is okey dokey. Who wants to
go to the effort of creating important family time around the meal table if good food is not at
the center? It doesn’t give your children much to look forward to when they are adults.
An enjoyable meal releases the hormone oxytocin, which is your natural stress buster, and
which also fights all manner of diseases in the body. Later, you’ll learn how lots of sex with your
husband can increase your oxytocin levels dramatically. Eating good food releases this same
hormone to a significant, but somewhat lesser extent. Mothers need lots of oxytocin to help
fight the stress and chaos that sometimes threatens to overwhelm us in our daily family life.
Opening a tiny diet boxed meal, devoid of fat and calories, is not going to get that hormone
flowing! Good food, and enough of it to satisfy, along with the assurance that your children are
also eating that good food, is a formula for a nice release of oxytocin.
An S and E lifestyle can easily work for the whole family and meet all the different needs.
The evening meal is the perfect time to put this into practice. Let’s say you’ve planned a roasted
chicken (or two or three) for dinner (Whole Baked Chickens, Evening Meals, Chapter 21).
Perhaps you’re not a scratch cook, you’re more the Drive Thru Sue type and you picked up a
couple of rotisserie chickens from the store on your way home from running errands. Don’t be
down on yourself; that’ll work too, (so long as the chicken is not breaded and fried). In fact, if
budget allows, you could have driven through Kentucky Fried Chicken and purchased pieces of their grilled chicken which would have saved you stress and time. It only matters that you
ended up with some carb free animal protein around which you plan the rest of your meal.
It’s simple, really. This meal will be S because you plan on leaving the yummy skin on the
chicken and eating both the dark and white meat. You’ll have your chicken with a big salad,
sprinkled with some cheese, bacon bits, and creamy ranch. Or, you could have lots of grilled,
steamed, or baked veggies, tossed with butter, and maybe a smaller side salad if you like. Hope-
fully, you’ll make sure your children have some salad and a serving of veggies, too. However,
they’ll need to fill up more with healthy, whole grain carbs, or creamy mashed potatoes in
proportion to their metabolic needs. Most children without weight issues need to eat at least
Crossover portions of healthy carbs. Rapidly growing teenage boys may eat carbs in far greater
than Crossover portions. But, remember, if any of your children are struggling with weight,
try to steer them to higher protein and vegetable intake rather than the carbs, but don’t take
the carbs away completely.
Pearl chats: At dinner time, all my family enjoys the same protein source, whether
it be chicken, beef, quiche, or beans. My husband and I eat more of the non-starchy
vegetables than the children. I make sure they get some, but I usually butter slices
of healthy whole grain bread and place these on the table so they have enough whole
grains for their metabolic needs. Or, I serve potatoes, brown rice, or whole wheat pasta.
The bread and other carbs do not interest me as the rest of the meal is so good and I
am completely satisfied with vegetables, fat, and protein in an S meal. Now and then, I
use the grains as S Helpers to supplement my meals. I do find though, with the excep-
tion of quinoa, that my sensitive digestive system has an easier time if I leave the
grains completely out of an S meal at night time.
All of my children that are still growing burn whole grain carbs efficiently and they
are all wiry and strong. My oldest daughter’s growth has stopped now that she is 17
years and she finds it more important to lay off high intake of grains, or she gains
When it comes time to prepare dinner, I always ask myself a couple of questions
to get started. First, what will be my protein source? Maybe I’ve got some ground
beef handy. Good. I’ll make a meatloaf. Now I’m in S territory so I ask myself what
non-starchy vegetable I’m going to use as the main side. I look in the freezer and see
two bags of frozen cauliflower. Good, I’ll roast them in the oven with coconut oil and
delicious seasonings while the meatloaf is cooking. Then I ask what carb can I have for
the children? I spy a box or two of whole wheat noodles in the cupboard. Great, I’ll cook
them up and toss with butter and parmesan cheese. The children will be very happy to
have a serving of those noodles on their plates. But, because the cauliflower will taste
so good, it won’t be too troubling to get them to eat that, too.
Lunches are when I often like to have a piece of salmon. I try to do salmon at least
two to three times each week, although I slip up sometimes when things are crazy
around here. For lunch, my children often like to eat whole grain noodles or grilled
cheese on whole wheat. Hey, I get to eat grilled cheese sandwiches, too, if I feel like
it, thanks to the plain version of Muffin in a Mug (Muffins, Breads, and Pizza Crusts,
After reading our chapter on Foundation Foods, Chapter 17, you may be persuaded
to also eat more salmon. It is very quick to make for lunch. Sautéing salmon, along
with some finely cut vegetables for S, or broiling or poaching the salmon and including
three quarters of a cup of brown rice or quinoa for E, is speedy and easy. You don’t
have to think of it as having to make a “another whole meal, poor me!” Right now, as
we’re writing this book, we have all our children together, plus an extra cousin or two
around. That makes about 15 children. We’re on a deadline, but lunchtime will be a snap.
The children will be happy if we heat up brown rice from the night before in coconut
oil and seasonings, offer them each a boiled egg from the fridge, and pass out apples
for dessert. At the same time, we will sauté our salmon and side it with an awesome
salad with avocado and toasted nuts, thrown together in a jiffy. Not too hard.
We’ll be back to you in no time, but right now we’re going to enjoy this fabulous
lunch. Serene and I love eating together and telling each other how we enjoy our good
food. It’s loud in here right now, though! O
Serene chats: There is usually one part of the meal that overlaps for everyone. Our
family enjoys a lot of yummy soups, like Coconut Thai or Chicken Curry, (Evening Meals,
Chapter 21). I usually serve a big pot of steaming brown rice on the table. My husband
and I either forgo the rice, or add 1-2 heaping tablespoons to our soup or stew as an
S Helper. We round our meal with a heartier portion of the scrumptious salad.
At other times we may have a favorite family casserole or meatloaf that is glyce-
mic friendly and which everyone can enjoy. Again, the big pot of steaming brown rice
is on the table for the children, but my husband and I round off our meal with yummy
It’s very simple at our house. There is almost always raw whole milk and brown rice
on the table for the children and maybe a little “mummy and daddy” dish that is just
for us. The main portion of the meal is enjoyed by all, but we compliment our meals with
the different foods that support our metabolic differences.
Of course, there are times when the family requests something that is not on
the “plan” or, I have made something in bulk which is easy to feed the crowd of them,
like a big lasagna with whole wheat noodles, which would not suit a slimming protocol.
Instead, I sauté a little salmon in five minutes, throw a delicate salad on the side, and I am set to go as well. If what the children are eating does not work for you and you are
not at Crossover stage what is a few minutes to protect your waistline?
Keep it foremost in your mind that “kid food” will make you fat. Like Pearl, lunch
times are more often the time when I’ll choose to eat something very different from my
children. It is always a quick meal time for both the children and me. I may make tuna
sandwiches for my children while I have a piece of salmon on a bed of lettuce. Salmon
and salad is about the most slimming lunch you could ever hope to find.